Monday, September 17, 2012

For Wayne.

2 years ago today a truly beautiful soul was taken from us by a selfish bitch with no regard for human life.
My friend Wayne was the most caring, honest and friendly person you could ever hope to meet and I miss him every single day.
He always was and he always will be a source of inspiration to me and each time I come across someone who treats me badly or hurts me or one of my friends I'm always left with the same thought "why couldn't it have been you? Why did such a beautiful soul have to go and leave you here if you're not going to help make the world a better place?"
This probably makes me a horrible person to wonder such a thing as no one should wish another person dead right? But how can one person, a person who once chased a bus to give a stranger back their wallet they had left, how can that person be the right one to take and leave so many evil souls behind? I don't get it.
For all of us who knew Wayne, we're the lucky ones. We get to carry his memory with us always and remember the infectious laugh and random sayings. I feel sorry for anyone who never met him, your life will never be as bright as mine and even though the candle is gone, the light will always shine forever in our hearts.
On this day and every day in fact I miss you and at the risk of sounding like a bad celine dion song: I will always love you, you smelly hippy.
For my friend
Wayne Moores.
Xx

Friday, September 14, 2012

Gotta love the cheese!

So those of you that know me know that I love my cheese. It's just a statement of fact like saying that all politicians are soulless thieves or that the bible was a series of bedtime stories written to keep the minds of impressionable children in line and in their place. So when my friend (let's call him roger) suggested we go to a real west country cheese festival you can imagine that I was as excited as Gary glitter at a nativity play.
Oh, and just so you know, I changed the names of the people in this because I didn't ask their permission but most of this actually did happen apart from the bits I like to fabricate for dramatic effect. It's my blog, I'll do what I like!
Anyway, I'd arranged to get a lift with another friend (let's call her Rachel) the night before so that we could all get up nice and early to give us maximum cheese festivaling opportunity. We should have known that as soon as we stopped in tescos for a few nibbles and came out with a couple of bottles of vodka, some cider and three bottles of pink wine that we were heading for trouble.
So we get to rogers house who is by now bouncing off the walls because we're late and the drinking commences. Now, I'm not going to go into everything that happened that night for the main reason that some members of my family actually read this (knew I should have made this anonymous!) but suffice to say we're all that little bit closer now and the birds were starting to sing by the time we all collapsed into bed.
Now seeing as one of rogers friends had said that he would come and pick us up to go to the cheese festival, we had to be out of bed by 10am and ready by 11. This is not a problem for roger who is like road runner on speed but Rachel and I sleep on unaware of rogers preparations.
At around roughly 10.30, I am nudged gently awake by a metallic feeling somewhere between my eyes and the tip of my nose so one eye flips lazily open while the other tries to remain in the land of nod for just a bit longer. The first eye can't really compute what it's seeing so elbows the second eye into consciousness whilst frog marching brain into gear as it appears that I am staring into the yawning maw of a double barrelled shotgun. This is the reason I am telling you this story, the cheese was just a ruse for this is the first and hopefully only time I will be awakened in this way.
As the sleep clears from my eyes and brain, I follow the line of sight up the gun where roger is stood, beaming from ear to ear, fag dangling from the corner of his mouth (for the American readers I do mean a hand rolled cigarette not a small gay man although that may give a certain visual something to the story), wearing a deep pocketed green wax Barbour jacket over the tiniest pair of underpants with a fur lined deer hunter hat complete with moose horns on his head.
"D'ya think I'll fit in?" he asks removing the gun from my face and drawing in on his fag, "or should I wear a smock?"

Now I know I said that I do sometimes fabricate for dramatic effect but that actually did happen and is pretty much the reason for the whole blog post but if you really want to know about the cheese festival well, it was alright. The sun was shining, there was cheese, there was cider with the obligatory small fly and pieces of grass floating around in the bottom of the glass, there were bales of hay and a punch and judy. Can't go wrong with that now can you?

Oh and roger didn't wear his gun toting country bumpkin outfit or his smock thankfully as judging by the rest of the festival goers he would have stood out like a sore thumb.

Thursday, August 9, 2012

Anyone but me

Anyone but me

PS: A song what I wrote.
(two posts in one day! I think I need a lie down)

You're not going to like this one....

Ok I realise that I'm a shit blogger who only pops up when I have something controversial to say or when something so hideous happens in my life that it would be rude not to turn it into a funny story even though I'm weeping on the inside but it's my blog so I'll do what I like.
I'm actually doing the controversial thing right now over the hoo ha on Facebook over the page called 'dead baby jokes' or whatever it's called and I just wanted to say to all those people ranting over how sick it is or posting links to petitions "are you freaking insane?"
You're the type of people who watch something disturbing on tv then write to watchdog claiming to be disgusted about what you've just watched when in reality all you had to do was turn the tv off/over. You don't even have to get off your arse to do that unless some inconsiderate person has moved the remote more than six inches from your finger tips or (horror of horrors) the batteries have died. You could even (and this is a radical suggestion) go outside and do something else; read a book, learn to juggle, talk to another human being....just a thought.
From what I gather the page exists so that people can post sick jokes. That is all. They're not advocating infanticide or pedophilia or any other such nonsense they're just posting dubious (albeit quite unfunny) jokes but you know what...? You don't have to visit the sites. You can block it from your newsfeed.
We live in a country that by and large allows freedom of speech, thought and to a certain degree acts. By signing this petition you are trying to take away that freedom just because it's not to your taste. Where does it end? Are you going to join the act to 'cure' gays? No. Yes this page is sick and yes it's not to my taste but neither is asparagus and I'm not petitioning to have that banned.
I'll tell you what I'm focusing my energies on. On the people who cause actual harm to others on our planet. How about boycotting Japanese products until they stop needlessly slaughtering whales in the name of science? How about finding out if your makeup is really animal friendly or if you're actually unwittingly helping torture thousands of animals in the name of beauty. How about using some of your time to write to governments guilty of human rights violations and helping to make a difference to a persons life instead of jumping on the bandwagon and drawing attention to a small group of people who were starved of attention as children and get their kicks from making the masses go *gasp* "they're saying bad words!".
Seriously?

Monday, April 30, 2012

A poem what I wrote

This is a poem that I wrote at a workshop where we wrote thoughts down on pieces of paper and picked them out of a hat and then wrote what came to us from the pieces.

Cheating hearts.

A receipt from a present never received
A ghost of feelings once perceived
To fill the void of an empty heart
A walk by the sea,a good place to start.

To walk, to see, beside the sea
The savage landscape, a barren scene.
A piece of mind from howling winds
The empty presence serenity brings.
A canvas, blank. A wordless book.
A fresh page to fill. A touch. A look.

A cat who walks all by himself
An empty vase on a cluttered shelf.
The scenes that crowd an empty thought.
The flowers and the chocolate bought.
The late night calls, work overtime
Tells me you're no longer mine.

The silence at the end of the phone
The way you take the long way home
The dinners that are in the dog
Images crowd through the fog
Of skin on skin and whispered rhymes
A scene that is no longer mine.

Sunlight streams onto an empty bed
The tangled sheets of all we shared
The wedding band now shackled on
Empty soul, the love long gone.


X

Friday, April 13, 2012

I really am such a bad blogger! Ages since I last wrote anything. You must be feeling very neglected. Sorry about that.
Well, in case you're interested I have made some fairly drastic life changes recently. I moved back to Southampton and am busy building my menagerie with new housemate (more on him later), I'm preparing for the regional final of the live and unsigned competition mainly by pretending that it's all a dream and that it's happening to someone else otherwise I may just have a freak out. Sing in front of over a hundred people. Good god I must be mad.
I've also been accepted to university to do a degree in comedy writing and performance although since being told that my writing is funny by a college professor I've found that I can't write anything! Not a thing. As soon as I try and put pen to paper to write a song or a blog post my mind starts with it's bloody annoying negativity. None of it is very funny. Or maybe it's because I've stopped being a drunken fool and meeting random weirdos? No that can't be it, I still meet random weirdos except that now they're my friends.
Sigh.
See, boring.
I can't even come up with any lists of things I hate or that annoy me. It's like apathy has sunken into my bones and I can't string a coherent sentence together. Maybe this is what it's like to be thick? Maybe I should give up, start wearing pink tracksuit bottoms with juicy or whatever slogan they use nowadays on the arse and start chain smoking? Next stop Jeremy Kyle! Please help, I'm turning into everyone else. Now there's a show that would have everyone reaching for the remote in droves. Turn this shit off, it's not sensational enough they would cry and then log on to watchdog to complain.
I've never understood that.
"Dear Ann Robinson
Loved you on the Weakest link, bit nasty sometimes though eh? It's nice to be nice and all that. Anyway, I'm writing to complain about the storyline on generic soap opera last week when hot guy one snogged hot guy two. It's not the homosexuality I mind per se (I don't think the complainer would spell that right but I can't bring myself to do it) it's just that the denim jacket he was wearing clashed hideously with the armchair fabric and I feel that that's something the producers should have thought about before they aired the episode at tea time. Proper put me off my pie and chips that did. (I know you're all reading this in a Yorkshire accent now!) I would have turned over but Hollyoaks was on the other side and I would have been upset by the complete lack of reality in that programme so decided to make the best of a bad situation and anyway, the remote was sticky because the cat spilled cat milk on it and I have slight OCD and can't touch anything dirty. Shame cos Katie Price looks fantastic.
Anyway, please pass my disgust on to the producers and hopefully I'll be able to eat my tea without retching at the questionable attire of the shows characters.
Yours,
Disgruntled Viewer.

Oh dear, look at the trash my brain is churning out.
I might give it all up and go and work in tescos (other supermarket chains are available and equally as soul destroying)

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

In case you were wondering...

Ok, so I've realised that I've not updated you all about my raw food experience since my little paddy a few weeks back.
After meeting with MT and having a raw food prep session and really listening to what she had to say, I've got to admit it all just made sense. That's not to say that it's easy to stick to! You do have to be super organised which I am not! And you do have to have tremendous will power and anyone who knows me knows that I have the will power of a wet napkin! However, one piece of advice she gave me and one that I'm trying to stick to is that if you put the good stuff in, eventually you won't crave all the bad stuff anyway. And it's actually a philosophy that I'm now trying to apply to the whole of my life. Let the good things in and the bad stuff will simply fade out and truth be told, it seems to be working so far.
I'm not going to lie, I have slipped up and had the occasional fast food fix but nowadays I can really feel the effects it has on me! Sluggish, lethargic, moody and irritable are just a few things that I feel after eating processed crap and you have to ask yourself "why do I do it?"
I'll tell you why, habit. Convenience. It's that simple. Rushing around and not eating for hours and then the thought hits you that you're actually quite hungry and if you don't eat something in the next five minutes the next person you come across will lose a finger if they stick it too close to your mouth. So you grab the first thing that comes to hand which is usually sugary, fatty, carb laden fake food which has been processed so much that you mistake it for delicious goodness and then the cycle begins all over again because you've filled the gap, you're not hungry when the next meal time comes around and so on and so forth.
There will be some people mocking this idea. I know. I was one of them. I totally bought in to the idea that we've been eating meat and drinking milk etc for so long and we're always being told that it's good for us but it's not until you cut that shit out that you realise just how untrue that is. Like MT says: just because you can, doesn't mean you should. It's like alcohol. We all like a drink and even if you don't turn into a psychotic axe wielding maniac after a few beers doesn't mean that in the long run its good for you. Yes you can have a drink with no real short term effects except that the hangovers get worse as you get older. Guess what? That's your body saying: I don't like this! Stop it now please!
A few years ago I was diagnosed with depression (now there's a revelation) and I was told that I had to eat healthily and get more exercise etc etc. Fine, I did that and yes started to feel better but still not really 100%
And then I had a wake up call (those who know me know what it was) and once I had gotten my head round that's turned thirty (another wake up call!) and thought "what am I doing?"
Thirty years old and still miserable, feeling sorry for myself. You know what, enough of the pity party, you want life to change, you have to change. So I jacked in my job, got the dreds I had always wanted and looked into the raw food thing in more detail. It did begin as an idea for an article but has ended up making a massive difference to my life!
I know people don't get it or don't want to get it but you have to get to these things in your own time and change what needs to be changed when it needs to be changed in your own time so I'll just carry on marching to my own tune. Something I wish I'd done a long time ago. And I don't want people to think that this is a preachy "do as I tell you" piece of writing. I just like to write it down to make sense of it in my own head.

Fucking hippy.

Saturday, February 25, 2012

Live and unsigned!!!!

Well fuck me sideways with a barge pole, I've only gone and got through to the regional finals of the live and unsigned completion!
To say I was surprised would have been the biggest understatement of the year!
I got to the competition and it was like a scene from fame, punked out by ashton kutcher. Kids and adults of all ages some rocking awesome tattoos, one with a sunflower tattoo and an awesome Mohawk and me.
I tell you I almost gave up and went home at that point. Sitting there surrounded by people playing guitar way better than I could ever dream of playing and guys singing melodies so beautiful that Ed Sheeran would have been sobbing into his shandy I thought "what the hell am I doing here?" I had no idea what I was going to sing, no idea if my guitar was still in tune or even if I'd remembered packing my capo. Just as I was about to stand up and go home the pretty ginger lady with the clipboard called my name and I sidled over sheepishly.
"hello" I said sounding like Martha from spaced. All efficient, she hustled me and two other guys through to some sort of holding pen where in some bizarre twist of new torture there was a tv screen where you could watch the acts performing on stage.
There were three girls on stage when I entered and all of them had such amazing voices that I would have turned and run then except the little guy who looked a but like a hamster was leading us up to wait by the side of the stage and then shoving us in front of our respective microphones.
Well, this is it I thought. May as well choose a song to sing. There and then, on the spot I chose the cup of tea song and let her rip.
Amazingly people were smiling and tapping along so it wasn't too bad but then the next two guys performed and I thought ah well, that's that then. They were amazing!
We got off stage and another guy with a clipboard said he'd come and find us if we got through and I seriously considered leaving then and there thinking there was no way I've gotten through but I took a seat cos ultimately I'm a good girl and have to do as I'm told. Clipboard guy came over ten minutes later and called my name and as he wasn't carrying any bits of paper I thought he had the thanks but no thanks speech all prepared but no! He said congratulations; you're through. I looked at him blankly for what seemed like hours as though he was talking to me in Japanese and before I knew it I was filling in my form and agreeing to come to the regional finals on the 22 April.
Well, that's pretty much the whole of the story but the ride has only just begun. I need people to come and support me at the regional finals, make banners, wear t shirts that kind of thing so if you love me at all in the slightest please come and show your support on the 22 April! Crikey!

Friday, February 3, 2012

A piece about on line dating

This is a piece I wrote about online dating and published by Gallery magazine. Very exciting.

Rad my article! You know you want to

Very short blog post I know but the article is there. What more could you want?

Friday, January 27, 2012

Raw food experience

Right toys have been picked up and put back in the pram and we're back on track to start trying to go raw again. I think the problem last time is my mental attitude was calling it a challenge which it is but that doesn't mean I have to accomplish it all in one go. After having a very informative couple of hours making actually quite tasty food with MT even if the combinations were a bit strange it's left me feeling much more positive about the whole thing and reduced some of the pressure I've put on myself to do it all in one go. Make the small changes and the big changes will follow. I'm not going to beat myself up of I have a piece of cheese or a beer but by the same token I'm trying not to go on carb or alcohol binges as well. The whole raw thing makes a lot of sense (spend a couple of hours with MT an you'll think so too) and actually even with the massive falling off the wagon thing yesterday I've actually lost 8lb which is not that much but again in the grand scheme of things if it makes me healthier it can't be all bad.
So, probably best not to dive head first into it but by making small changes i think we'll get there.

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Raw food vegan challenge day 4

FUCK THE RAW FOOD!!
That's right I quit! When you start feeling headachey and nauseous that's one thing, but to start throwing up green shit that's quite another all together. I can still write the article from the perspective that I tried it and Mazza has stuck it out for a whole week (probably because she's even more stubborn than I am!) and I will still interview the vegan and learn some recipes but I think that's it for me.
On an unrelated note, why do estate agents have to be such dicks? Is it like a clause in the contract? If they apply for the job and aren't enough of a dick do they have to go to dick training school? Discuss.

Raw food vegan challenge day 3

Today was the worst of all days. I overslept and had to grab a banana for breakfast then had to meet someone in a pub where they were serving food and all I could have was a cup of tea with no milk. Then the raw oatmeal recipe I followed was disgusting and had to be binned as it was inedible swill, I had a lunch of greens, curly kale, rocket, spinach, carrot batons and the red lentil hummous I made which was ok but not satisfying.
I've felt headachey and nauseous all day, the hunger comes on with such force each time that if I'm out in town I honestly feel like I'm going to vomit if I don't get any food and the depressing thought that while yea I can have an apple, it's not going to be as satisfying as having a meatball sub and won't fill me up for as long. Then the little voice inside my head says "oh go on, just have a little sandwich. No one will know" and it takes tremendous will power to shut that voice up and walk past KFC without murdering the next person who comes out of there with a bargain bucket.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Raw food vegan challenge day 1 and 2

Day 1

I start the day with a banana, mango and blueberry smoothie which is actually no different to how I start most days so this is no biggie, it's only after I've been researching raw recipes online all morning and start to get hungry that I realise that I'm going to need a lot more preparation as I've not got anything for lunch or dinner unless I wish to snack on bananas all day. By the time I'm ready to go out into the world I'm already famished and have to snack on some cherries.
Once out I head to holland and Barrett where a spotty teenage boy regrets asking me if I need any help and recoils in horror when I tell him about my raw food challenge. After he's scuttled off to hide in the store room I browse the shelves unsure of what I'm actually allowed to have and whether I can get any of it cheaper in tescos.
I leave the shop having been signed up to the points card system and after purchasing a jar of vegan mayonnaise, some vegan mozzarella and some raw snack bars in a variety of flavours. Again I am so hungry that I crack open the cashew nut one and chow down before I've even pocketed my change. I'm a bit put off by the look and texture of it but it actually doesn't taste that bad.
I run round tescos trying to avoid eye contact with the cheese and trying to ignore the smell of freshly baked bread while I stock up on spinach and salad items and a bit of cous cous for good measure.
Now so hungry I'm actually growling at people, I pay for my shopping and run home to make myself a hearty salad before I kill someone.
The salad actually fills me up so I head to rehearsals for the evening feeling a little bit happier but this is short lived. About an hour into rehearsals the hunger returns in full force. I've found that you don't get slightly hungry first it just comes as a full throttle smack in the face hunger that descends with no warning. I drink some water to see if this helps. It doesn't.
I make someone take me home as the thought of getting two buses with this hunger is too much to bear and I console myself with a nice bowl of cherries. It's not the same as some toast and marmite and I go to bed hungry.

Day 2

Ok new day but still not feeling great about the whole thing. Doesn't help that Mazza is doing the challenge with me for the first seven days and her first diary entry is light and breezy as though she's going to swan through this no problem.
Again I start the day with a banana mango and blueberry smoothie but I put more mango and blueberries in this time. As I'm going out house hunting today I put another snack bar in my bag along with a tub of vegetables containing carrots, baby corn and mange tout drenched in balsamic vinegar as that's the only way to make them palatable when you're in a hurry. Once again when I tell my friend about the challenge he recoils in horror and tells me about the bacon sarnie he had for breakfast while I grind my teeth and stuff my face with carrot batons.
It's on the bus home that the hunger returns and I feel that if I eat another vegetable stick I'm going to kill someone so we have to get off the bus and go to tesco where I stock up on brazil nuts, a pot of pineapple chunks, some oats, honey and some innocent smoothies as I can't wait til I get home to have something, anything!
The smoothie abates my hunger somewhat but it's not satisfying at all. You know when you get hungry when you're out and about and you can deal with it because "it's ok, I'll have some nice hearty beef stew and dumplings when I get home" and you know you'll be satisfied until breakfast in the morning but this hunger is awful because you know that whatever you eat isn't going to fill you up for long and the hunger cycle is going to continue.
I go to the opening show and take my brazil nuts with me to snack on but it's just not the same unless they're covered in chocolate.
Get home to bed just as hungry and miserable. Read Mazzas second diary entry, think she's starting to crack too. The hunger will get you in the end and when do these cravings stop!!!

Saturday, January 21, 2012

The happiest day of my life so far.

Sitting here feeling hungover, desperate for food but the cupboard is bare so I go on to a little site called just eat and discover to my eternal happiness that there is a place in southamptonshire that delivers roast dinners! I shit you not!
Well we had to try it didn't we and this is what turned up...

THE MOST AMAZING ROAST DINNER!!!!

You might guess that I am a little excited by this. I've been saying for years that someone should deliver good traditional home cooked food. I mean Chinese and Indian and pizza are fine but sometimes you just want a good old pie and chips or roast dinner. And now here it is.
And it was yummy, so good, decent sized portions and very reasonably priced and the food itself comes in awesome biodegradable containers. I think the great British takeaway is my new favourite place.
Unfortunately they only deliver to certain places in Southampton so you have to check their website to see if you can experience gastric heaven yourself!
I wonder if there are any more around England? Just in case. If anyone knows don't keep it to yourself!

Get it here!

http://thegreatbritishtakeaway.y4f.co/

Or call them, they are awesome!

tel:02380970700



Monday, January 16, 2012

Bend over Britain!

I just read in the paper today that Michael Gove wants to give the royals a yacht for their whatever jubilee anniversary. Most people get silverware or a ticket to see Michael Bolton in concert but no, that snivelling brown nosing elitist twat wants to give a yaht. At a time when the British public have been screwed over by bankers, had their money leeched from them by the people elected to look after their best interests (Pah!!) they now want to spend an estimated 60 million on buying a family who probably already have six or seven yachts another one. Other than being quite the present buying faux pas, a bit like buying a newly wed couple a toaster and realising aunts madge already bought them a toaster for their engagement present, it is a massive waste of public money when schools budges are being cut, the nhs is an absolute shambles and doctors are being forced to sell products and services in order to reap a little reward from the coffers. All I can say is thank god Cameron had enough sense to say "easy tiger, not sure that's a good idea seeing as we've already raped the British public for millions already. Let's just go with a big party. You can pay for the buffet".
Twats.

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Raw food. Madness or a well kept secret

Today I'm sat in a fairly nice b and b having just had a reasonably nice cooked breakfast and I'm contemplating my next challenge. The last challenge worked out to be fairly simple; to find people who had found lasting love online which I started out thinking it was going to be quite difficult but thanks to the wonders of Facebook I managed to find a fair few people that found their special someone through cyberspace. Article written now just waiting to see if the editor of the magazine likes it! To distract myself from thinking about this I've started researching my next challenge. Raw food diets. What are they? What makes people change over to raw food diets and what changes do they bring to your body and mind. I read one blog by some guy named steve. He's a self professed expert on health and peace of mind. A self made rich man (I can't say millionaire as I'm not certain that he is) a man that writes self help articles that I'm sure countless gullible people around the world read and go "oh he's so clever" quit their job and end up living on a friends sofa because they just didn't think this through. And no before you ask I did not read his article before I jacked in my job and went to live on my friends sofa but maybe if I had, things would be going better. Or maybe they wouldn't. Who knows. Anyway back to the point. Steve did the raw food diet challenge for thirty days and reported feeling awful for the first two weeks, headaches, nausea, cramps, difficulty concentrating etc but then after two weeks his body became accustomed to it and he started being able to function better, better mental clarity, he could do progressively more sit ups (he went from being able to do 5 then 7 then a whopping 28 sit ups) whoah. Easy there steve, you don't want to give yourself a hernia!
As you can see, as a dedicated meat eater, I am sceptical about the whole idea. I don't see how living off vegetable and plant matter exclusively can be good for you but in the name of curiosity I'm willing to give it a go. Now, I was going to try it for 14 days but if steve reckons it takes two weeks for the initial shock of not eating cooked food or meat then I guess I'm going to have to rise to the challenge and do thirty days. So if any raw foodies out there want to give me some hints and tips and nice tasting recipes (Steve's banana, spinach and water smoothie sounded less than appetising) please drop me a line and if you see me during February looking lost, confused and famished please take pity on me and give me some organic chocolate or just wrap me in a blanket in front of a few episodes of big bang theory.
THINGS I'LL MISS
•steak
•cheese
•roast dinner
•chocolate

THINGS I'M LOOKING FORWARD TO
•being off my face without the use of narcotics
•the weight loss
•er....um... I think that's about it. I'll let you know if anything wondrous occurs.

Oh and it would be a big help if during that time you didn't offer me any of my favourite food especially cheese unless you want to see a grown woman cry.

Thanks!